This week, I wanted the highlight other sites that speak about sexual violence issues on a regular basis.  These sites can be a great way to connect with other survivors, advocates, and supporters.  The Internet has been a great way to demonstrate that we aren’t alone in our thoughts, experiences, or feelings, and that there are countless people who are trying to raise awareness about sexual violence in the hopes to contribute to ending it.

Yes Means Yes
Many people have heard of the book by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti.  The book has moved into the blogosphere with regular postings each month about a variety of different topics.  The posts regularly tie in aspects of rape culture and stereotypes into recent news stories and global events.  It can read a bit academic at some points and definitely takes a very feminist perspective.

Incite!
This blog focuses specifically on how violence affects women of color.  While all posts may not focus on sexual assault specifically, they all deal with how instrumental violence affects the world and safety of women of color.  Incite! has also published several books based on their grass-roots activist work.

A Rape Survivors Blog
This blog is written by a rape survivor and focuses on the struggles she has and also the triumphs.  Each post deals with a specific daily incident and how it affected her.  Writing is used by a lot of survivors to process through their reactions, feelings, and progress on the road to recovery.  By making hers public, this blogger shows to a variety of survivors that many of these reactions and feelings are similar despite how unique each survivor is.  Sometimes it can be helpful to know that someone else is having the same struggle and has made it through.

Ms. Magazine Blog
Ms. gathers all their op-eds about sexual assault in a single place.  There are a number of contributors and as a result the topics vary widely as well.  The frequency of posts depends on when people write about sexual assault, as opposed to other feminist topics.  Therefore, there can be several new additions each day or it could remain silent for weeks.  Many topics respond to current events or to other op-eds that are either positively or negatively representing rape culture.

The Curvature
This blog is written by Cara Kulwicki, who is also an editor at the Feministe.com website.  Posts are semi-regular and readers can expect at least one per month.  Topics range widely and usually are inspired by recent news articles.  She is good at labeling what each post is about and putting appropriate trigger warnings, which can help readers decide whether to continue further with a post or not. 

Boston Hollaback
Boston Hollaback recently launched in December 2011.  This is a collection of experiences of street harassment, how each individual poster responded to the incident, how they may have wanted to respond, and how it could still be affecting them.  This blog serves as proof that many women and LGBT members experience street harassment and that it can serve to make public spaces as very unsafe for many of us.  The site also has tips on how to handle street harassers and different resources that exist within the Boston area.

If you read any other blogs on a regular basis that discusses sexual violence well, please feel free to add the links in the comments section.

Written by: Stacey

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!  It’s that time of year where we all take the time to recognize the survivors who exist within our communities, the effect that sexual violence has on their support systems, on society, and on each one of us.  There are a number of events that are happening at different universities and around the city.  Events can range from panel discussions to movie nights to clothesline displays to speak outs to rallies.  These experiences can be emotional but usually allow attendees to leave feeling empowered and hopeful that there can be an end to sexual violence.

BARCC is hosting the Clothesline Display in the South Station Atrium on April 3rd from 6:00am to 7:30pm.  The Clothesline Display contains many t-shirts that have been designed by sexual assault survivors and their loved ones.  They contain messages about how the assault affected them, how they’ve coped, messages to the person who assaulted them, and others.  This display is a great visual representation of how many people are impacted by sexual violence and that there is a ripple effect that extends to their family and community.  There will be staff and volunteers available the entire day to answer any questions about the history of the Clothesline Project or the different resources that we offer.  Our lavender products will also be on sale at South Station, and make excellent gifts for Easter or Mother’s Day!  All of our lavender products are made by Sunny Window, a woman-owned company. Products include eye pillows, dryer bags, small and large pillows for your living room, soaps, tea, and gift sets.  All proceeds benefit the services that BARCC offers for free, such as our Hotline, Medical Accompaniment, Prevention Services, and Legal Advocacy to name a few.

BARCC is also having our annual Walk for Change on Sunday, April 22nd this year.  It will start and end at Canal Park while following a path along the Charles River.  All are invited (dogs included!) to register as a walker, the fee is only $25 for an adult, which includes a fabulous walk t-shirt.  Of course it would be more fun to share this experience with friends, family, neighbors, or colleagues! You can form you own Walk Team and if you have more than 20 people, then there’s a discount on the registration fee!  One of the greatest things about this Walk is the number of people that come together from various backgrounds.  However, during the Walk, we are all united by the drive and belief that sexual violence has no place in our communities and that we are willing to stand next to and support those who it effects.  Last year, there were over 1,500 walkers!!  The Walk for Change is also a great time to fundraise for BARCC and all proceeds go directly to the free services that we provide for survivors, significant others, and the community.  Last year, this event raised over $150,000 for our organizations and more than $40,000 of that was from donations less than $25.  Every donation truly does matter to our work and to the people we serve every day.  Join us this year and be a part of the population who will stand and say that sexual violence needs to end! 

Check out our video on the walk here:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUVM6AzF-rs&feature=player_embedded

If your organization is hosting any events, please list them in the comments section below.

Written by: Stacey

Please join me in welcoming Hollaback Boston to the long list of other Hollaback sites around the globe.  The site just launched at the end of 2011, and also has a Facebook and a Twitter account to follow. 

Hollaback is a movement dedicated to ending street harassment through online apps and social media.  It was created as a safe space for females and LGBTQ individuals to talk about their personal experiences, as they are vastly more likely to be affected by gender-based violence.  It allows them a space to report any form of street harassment they may personally experience or that they see happen to a friend or stranger.  It offers people the ability to report what happened, how it made them feel, how they responded, and if they wish they had responded any differently now that time separated them from the harassment.  It also allows readers to comment about the stories and to offer words of validation and support. 

The creators of Hollaback believe that the concept and ability to write about harassment is important for a couple different reason.   First, on an individual level, it gives people an outlet to write about what happened and to learn that they aren't the only ones who are frustrated on a daily basis by street harassers.   By writing about the street harassment, each individual is given the opportunity to speak out in a safe and controlled environment whereas they may not feel comfortable responding directly to the harasser but don't want to remain silent.  Secondly, these stories affect society as people across the country and around the globe can read and post stories from their cities or others.  It allows others to try to empathize with how pervasive street harassment is and how it makes each individual feel.  With each story, the movement is able to get a bit stronger and could inspire changes within formal organizations, such as the police and lawmakers.  Everyone deserves to be treated with respect in their work place, their home, their school, and on the street. 

Hollaback defines street harassment as: “a form of sexual harassment that takes place in public spaces". At its core is a power dynamic that constantly reminds historically subordinate groups (women and LGBTQ folks, for example) of their vulnerability to be assaulted in public spaces. Further, it reinforces the ubiquitous sexual objectification of these groups in everyday life. Hollaback! believes that what specifically counts as street harassment is determined by those who experience it. While there is always the classic, “Hey baby, nice tits!”, there are many other forms that go unnoted or written off as unwanted or unsolited compliments.  Instead of silently fuming or turning inwards, now people who have been addressed have the option to HOLLABACK!”. 

Stories on the many Hollaback websites range from comments to whispers to touching to upskirting.   These stories link together to demonstrate that street harassment is extremely pervasive around the country.  One of the important first steps to creating a movement and demonstrating the magnitude of a problem is to show how many people it affects.  One critical steps to healing is to realize that other people have been through a similar experience and that you are not alone.  Hollaback provides an avenue for both of these platforms, and it is very exciting that there is now a specific Boston chapter.

One of my favorite posts thus far is a comic strip about the pervasiveness of street harassment.  It is important to point out that while much of the harassments are verbal comments, these comments build up over the day, week, month, and year.  They each contribute to feelings of being unsafe in a public place.  It’s comments such as these that Hollaback wants to bring into the light, in addition to incidents of touching, groping, public masturbating, and flashing.  The frequency of each of these behaviors leads people to believe that it is just a normal occurance that we have to learn to accept as women or as an LGBTQ individual or because we live in a city.  But it’s not okay.  What it does is create a society that normalizes sexual and gender-based violence.  Ending street harassment is critical in our work to end sexual violence in general.

If you want to learn more about Hollaback Boston specifically, see their website.  And of course, don’t forget to check out their Twitter and Facebook pages.  If you want to learn more about the creation of the Hollaback movement you can do so here. 

It’s SUPER easy to get involved.  You can submit your personal stories here, either anonymously or not.

Written by: Stacey

Not too long ago, I went to a workshop on sexting in Middlesex it was titled: Building a Prevention Framework to Address Teen Sexting Behaviors-wanting to be hip and cool I decided to go since I work with teens and I needed to learn whatever I could about them.  Not fully understanding what sexting was, I went ready to learn about this new world of images and symbols, since basically all I knew was that it rhymed with texting.  I learned that according to Massgov website, sexting is the act of sending, receiving or forwarding sexually explicit messages or photos, or images via cell phone, computer or other digital devices. This made me think of what I was doing with technology when I was a teenager, and when I think back to that time I realize that all I had access to was a pager. If you can remember those little black square pucks that flashed red when you needed to call someone back. I don’t think you could have even done a ringtone on that let alone a naughty one. Of course, times have changed, but to imagine that that was the access I had at that time is surprising. Someone in my family might have taken a polaroid of me doing something a little risky and then my aunt would stop the picture taking process by saying, “stop acting so fast,” and that would put an end to my flight of expressing myself.  But the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy along with Cosmo did a study in September of 2008 that reported that 90% of teens and young adults are online. That’s a lot, though that doesn’t say anything about sexting, it does show how much time is being spent online by teens. This same study states that teens (13-19) have sent/posted nude or semi-nude pictures or video of themselves.

The breakdown looks like this: 20% of teens overall have sent or posted nude or semi-nude pictures or videos of themselves, 22% of girls, 18% of teen boys, and 11% of young teen girls (ages 13-16).  When it comes to how many teens are sending or posting sexually suggestive messages it goes like this: 39% of teens are doing it, 37% of teen girls, 40% of teen boys and 48% of teens say they have received such messages.  Now there have been lots of studies done on the topic of sexting, some studies suggest that sexting is not that prevalent nationally, but have  watched their numbers go up once their definition of sexting was broadened. Nonetheless, all of these studies have shown me that sexting is happening. Some of them are happening within the context of boyfriend girlfriend relationships and a smaller portion is happening with teens randomly posting images or text to Facebook, Myspace, or other social media, but I want to think a little bit more about “Why?”. Why is this happening? I won’t pretend that I know all the answers, but I have picked up some insight since going to the conference which took place in Middlesex, a county here in Massachusetts. 

To help answer this lets go back to when I was a teen…there were beepers and I watched 90210 and I was looking for anyway to express myself. My mom used to make me dress in the ugliest clothes and I remember walking to school thinking that as soon as I got to the bathroom I was going to do a Clark Kent and get out of those clothes, because they weren’t cool and not only that, they weren’t me. It’s the same with teens today, but expressing sexuality becomes even more complicated with the increased access to media.  Some therapists who work with teens would say that the mind of a teenager is like the mind of someone on LSD. Sounds horrible, but it’s true. Mary Pipher’s classic book, Reviving Opheilla says that “…the best way to understand teenagers was to think of them as constantly on LSD…People on LSD are intense, changeable, internal, often cryptic or uncommunicative and of course, dealing with a different reality”    (Pipher, 57). Think about where your mind was when you were a teen. What types of things did you get mad at? How did you handle stress, and moreover how did you handle being sexual? How did you handle wanting to up your bra size, or when you saw that half of six pack peeking through?  Also, how did you want to express it? What was available to you to show all that newness off?  Well, right now it’s not the Polaroid. Combine all of this with the accessibility to cell phones, flip cameras, computers, Youtube, Facebook, Myspace, digital cameras and some other stuff that I don’t even know, you can guess that the likelihood of  something like sexting happening is more than possible with teens.

With that said, it’s important to note that sexting is a serious offense and illegal. Though instances in sexting come from various age demographics there should also be the recognition that each case is complicated and unique. There are laws that vary state to state on this topic and it can affect teens while they are trying to express  their autonomy. Is it realistic to have teens not use their cell phones? Probably not. You can go down the story trail of telling them about your access to pagers when you were young and how you communicated to your friends with upside down letters--that was so clever, or you can help them to think through the responsibility they have with social media. This conference made me think of all these things; I feel like I have some tools under my belt. The conference that I went to also focused on hearing from teens about this issue. It’s really very interesting. They don’t even name this thing. For them it’s not called sexting. When they heard about it being called that they said there is no title for this type of communication. They also knew that some of these things happen under the coerciveness of their romantic relationships. But the thing that struck me about the responses was that teens said that they are more likely to be open to other perspectives on these behaviors when they don’t feel judged or shamed. There’s a lot to tackle in the wide array of sexting, and that makes sense to me and probably the most important piece I got from this conference.

Written by: Claudia, Youth Sexual Violence Prevention Mass- Promise Fellow

There are days when I wake up and feel completely rejuvenated in the world and believe that we are making significant progress in providing services to survivors to sexual assault and nudging society away from myths and victim blaming and towards real information on sexual violence and prevention efforts. There are so many people who put in an effort each and everyday to create a better world for survivors, significant others, and, let’s face it, everyone. They do this because a world without sexual violence would be a marvelous world to live in.

Despite the fact that the change is slow, there is still so much to be excited about. There are new campaigns  that focus on what people can do to change the environment around them to prevent sexual violence rather than just telling people what to do after they’ve been assaulted. There is new research  that has been evaluated and is effective at reducing incidents of sexual harassment in middle schools. The FBI recently changed its definition of rape to be more inclusive of the many victims and survivors it affects each year. Teenagers are speaking out against the dangers of slut-shaming and victim blaming . Documentaries are being made to show the effects of media  and the epidemicof sexual assault in the military . Change and the push for change are happening on so many different levels so it’s easy to get excited as an anti-sexual violence advocate.

Maybe all this positive energy, change, and complete lack of a scary New England winter has made me too hopeful…too expectant that society is shifting for the better. I am quickly snapped back into reality when legislation, such as the one in VA mandating a trans-vaginal ultrasound for women who are seeking an abortion, is proposed and then passed by the House and Senate. What does this legislation mean exactly? It means that any woman who wants an abortion must have a trans-vaginal ultrasound, which is very different from a sonogram that is done on the stomach. The Reproductive Health Reality Check does a great job explaining what this procedure entails (WARNING: Graphics used).

The new definition of rape from the FBI is the penetration, however slight, of any bodily orifice by any body part or object without consent. This new law on the table in VA is the mandatory penetration of a woman’s vagina without the need for her consent or a doctor’s recommendation. It is not medically necessary, nor is it optional based on the situation at hand. It is required for every woman who wants to obtain an abortion. While it can be traumatic for any woman who wants to practice body autonomy, it can be especially traumatic for rape and sexual assault survivors.

Rape and sexual assault cause the survivor to lose power and control over their body. Sexual violence can cause a variety of emotional, psychological, mental, and physical trauma to survivors. It can be daunting and challenging for survivors to seek general medical care in the years afterward. This medically unnecessary procedure also takes away a woman’s power and control over her body and medical choices. It takes away the voice of the woman and the doctor to make appropriate choices and decisions for themselves. Being in a medical appointment creates a clear power dynamic between the doctor and patient, which can be intimidating for survivors. Also, patients can feel exposed by the robes they wear or the needed positions to complete a medical examination. These challenges can be prohibitive for a survivor to seek standard medical care if they want to avoid feeling vulnerable. As we know from research and decades of interactions with survivors, these feelings and thoughts aren’t just present immediate post-assault. It can be challenging for a survivor to seek care years after the assault. State-mandated laws, such as the one proposed by VA, can make it impossible for rape and sexual assault survivors to seek abortion care.

In a study, it was found that approximately 5% of rapes result in pregnancy, which translates to approximately 32,000 pregnancies each year due to a rape. Of these pregnancies, approximately 50% of them result in an abortion (Holmes, Resnick, Kilpatrick, Best, 1996). The vast majority of abortions (90%)  are done within the first trimester of pregnancy. For a survivor of rape, this means that she will have to experience a medically unnecessary trans-vaginal exam just 12 weeks after the first rape. It is inconceivable to verbally write out the amount of stress and anxiety that can cause a survivor such a short time after the initial assault. However, one survivor shares her perspective . This law will make abortions even more inaccessible to survivors who have recently been assaulted.

Currently the law is in a holding pattern as there has been a lot of negative media coverage and societal pushback. It has passed both the House and Senate in Virginia and, initially, Governor McDonnell said that he would absolutely sign the law if it came to his desk. However, he has recently held emergency meetings with other Republican members to discuss the ‘true implications’ of this bill and states that they did not originally know how invasive the procedure would be. These assertions are completely untrue as there were several attempts to take out the trans-vaginal ultrasound requirement and use a sonogram. These proposals were rejected by the Republicans each time, therefore they were given plenty of opportunities to recognize the invasiveness of the procedure they wanted to require. Rachel Maddow does a great job outlining several of the attempts on her show on Feb 22.  (As an aside, if they truly didn’t understand the ramifications of the bill – why are they passing the law??)

It is extremely disheartening that the law was able to pass through so many layers and that it would have been signed by the governor of Virginia without a second thought. I appreciate the hard work of advocates across the country to raise awareness about this extremely dangerous piece of legislation. There have been several silent and not-so-silent protests in VA about this legislation where hundreds of people have showed their dissent. Amy Poehler returned to SNL this past weekend to do a Really!? segment about the transvaginal ultrasound law. John Stewart also focused on the invasive and unnecessary procedure on the Tuesday episode.  Hopefully there is enough pressure to keep Governor McDonnell from signing the legislation. We need to keep in mind the many women and survivors who will be directly impacted by this law. Their voices, choices, and autonomy should be respected and treated with dignity.